A Smoke-Free Living

A Smoke-Free Living

Pray Together, Stay Together

You & I praying together existing in the “evil temptation” of this “natural world”, we constantly STAY IN PRAYER to keep ourselves spiritually in tuned. As we groom our souls with HIS “WORD” to remain on the “ENLIGHTENED PATH” of righteousness. As we continue the “everyday struggle” fighting our “internal demons” following our “spiritual charted” course. We are two “anointed souls” coming together as eternal SOULMATES praising THE AUTHOR & FINISHER OF OUR FAITH, the highest “source of inspiration”. You & I are uniting to make a “joyous cry” unto the Lord praying together for our duration, thanking HIM for letting us overcome the “worldly temptations” during our “trails & tribulations”. Magnifying HIS Holy name in the morning, noon, & night as HE shows us the “guiding light”, because we can FEEL HIM hearing our praying voices…


-For Psalms 55:17 states “Evening, and morning, & at noon, will I Pray, I cry aloud: and He shall hear my voice”.




Even in our “darkest hour”, we may suffereth long fighting the demons that’s trying to take us from where we belong, but this is why we are made strong. Through GOD “Our Love” is kind & that’s why we stand behind each other cause it’s not puffed nor easily provoked for GOD made us equally “YOKED”…

-For it states in 1Corinthinans 13:4 “Charity suffereth long, and it is kind: charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up”.

Feeling as the Messiah blesses us to maintain the same “Spiritual Balance”. We thank GOD for THE VICTORY & for THE MIRACLE given unto us. As we “PRAY TOGETHER” and by the grace of GOD may we “STAY TOGETHER”.

LaRonzMurray l’swager
Copyright ©2009 LARONZMURRAY

Economic Christmas

Economic Christmas

Thanksgiving Holiday

With the holidays quickly approaching, the economy still struggling and many company incentives getting cut. It is easy to say the pressure is on and there are people still trying to deliver a wonderful holiday cheer, but deep inside also wonder how they'll ever even pull it off.

Holiday planning usually begins during Halloween, and soon after the Thanksgiving and Christmas decorations start coming up. This year it was a bit off, but some tried to continue the normal pattern as one holiday slowly crept by and another immediately followed.

At this point I can't even believe another year will soon end and the struggle to maintain your home, keep your job and avoid a lay-off, or the fact many businesses are still struggling to keep their doors open is not only disappointing but horrendous.

Besides the downfalls we still try to keep our spirits up and hope along with those that are in jeopardy that they do get a better start. In the meantime, if you are one who enjoys the holidays keep it going. Keep it simple, and remember the most important thing is having a healthy, loving family that is there to support you and lift you when you happen to fall.

It is not right to let your troubles get the best of you, and this doesn't ring more true if you happen to be one with children. Togetherness is the best alternative and coming together with family is simply a joy no one can ever deny. So this holiday season enjoy, be merry and be safe.

Divorce Woes

This poem is dedicated to the men and women who feel somewhat trapped, and see no other way out. Please understand that it was written for someone who had done everything imaginable to save their own marriage, yet still failed miserably and refused to stay stuck. It is in no way meant for you to take it literally, but just focus on the despair of one marriage gone bad.

I do Set You Free

Addictions

There are many of us that suffer from one addiction or another on a daily basis. How we choose to deal with these addictions differ and many loved ones are left with doubt and resentment due to fear of the abuse continuing, and or basically never ending. Of the many addictions we shall cover the sex addict is the main focus in this piece, and I hope that if you are one or know of one that you share this with them and maybe somehow give them the support needed to overcome it. Please do continue to link provided...

Addicted to Sex

Veteran's Day Tribute

To all our men and women serving our country I want to say thank you for helping us maintain our freedom. You are all truly a class act and shall be acknowledged and rewarded every day of your lives. May God bless you and bring you home safely, and for those about to be deployed I wish the same.

Happy Veteran's Day 2009

To Discipline or to Yell

Many parents now a days turn to another form of abuse in order to stay clear of the physical. Most of us may not like to admit it, but when we yell at our children it is to some extent abuse due to the fact that words hurt, and once one begins the process of yelling the words can be a lot hurtful than anticipated. The child tends to shy away from you to avoid contact or even worse result to yelling themselves since they now think its the norm.

Yelling although difficult at times must be laid to rest. We all know how frustrating life can be, and how easy it is to take out such frustrations on those who are close to us, and then there's also the possibility your child may be more than you can handle with tantrums and disobedience, but yelling just like physical abuse can be prevented if you try.

Read more here...

Breast Cancer

Breast cancer awareness should be very important to every woman. Whether you once faced it, have a loved one who suffered from it or even fear being a victim to it yourself. Self-examinations should be done once a month and the importance of being checked out by a doctor truly important if you intend to catch this early. There are many forms of breast cancer, and while some may be treated, others just may need to be tackled with chemotherapy or radiation. Therefore, being well aware of your body and any changes is truly important and this also applies to men. The attached link will help you understand the many breast cancers plaguing our nation and assist you in performing the self-exams needed for early detection.

Breast Cancer Alert

Why Did You Hurt Me?

The following poem is dedicated to the victim that couldn't break free from abuse until it was much too late. Fortunately many victims lose their lives to someone they thought loved them and in the end just took away their most prize possession. Life.

Why Did You Hurt Me?

Domestic Violence

The included links focus on domestic abuse and the unforeseen effects it may have on your children. For when you grow up in an abusive household the children tend to pick up on these horrific traits and carry it with them for the rest of their lives. Let's hope domestic abuse can diminish more and more each day, the children depend on it, and so should you...


Domestic Violence by Susan B. Anna
Love has Nothing to do With it by Toyi Ward

Just too Late

This piece is dedicated to those of you who just came to grips with letting go of someone that frankly put is just not the one.

Just too Late

Living among Domestic Abuse

There are many living among us who suffer on a daily basis due to the mental anguish, torment and physical abuse sustained from the one who claims to love them. It is difficult for most to walk out on such a relationship due to loyalty, still being in love with him/her and then there comes the children. The one thing you should be focusing on isn't taken into consideration until it is much too late to make a change.

Your well being is placed in the back burner and so are the children because you think that your situation will change for the better if you stick to it. Let me just say unless the abuser seeks outside help, and anger management training there will be no change. Therefore it is up to you to place yourself and your children first. The following link will detail a woman's struggle with domestic abuse and how she decided it was time to finally let the abuser go.

Keeping the Other Happy

When do You Know it's Time to Let go???

To everyone who goes through life with a partner that's not fully there for you this is for you. Love is a complicated matter we all share. It can be a fulfilling kind of love for some, but for others it is simply the opposite. For those of you, who experienced the plus side of love and still have it, consider yourselves blessed, but for those of you who have yet to experience the unconditional love, support, caring and understanding a true love can bring I need you to follow this topic, and then read the attached link so you can see your true worth for what it is. It is up to you to make a stand if you feel unappreciated, unloved, belittled or resentful for sticking to it and allowing it to continue. This world is filled with so many possibilities if you only seek and take control of your life. You are in charge of your well-being so imagine yourself living a long and fruitful life with someone who can fulfill your every need, want and desire just for the pleasure of making you happy.

Do not by all means let anyone dictate your life. Being in a possessive, abusive relationship can take its toll in so many levels. There should never be any unkind words tossed your way by the person that claims to love you, and you should never be told you are not worth much because someone else thinks totally different. Someone else has guided you here for a reason, and maybe this doesn't touch you, but someone else you simply care about who you know deserves a partner they can look up to, and not be afraid of.

Now that I've gotten your attention please let the following link take you the rest of the way. You won't be disappointed and you may just get that extra push needed to seek help, or simply let go.

The Triumph of Regaining Control

Another Media Inquiry in Regard to Handling Conflicts

It is with great pleasure that I announce and include our next upcoming writer/contributor, Tim Kellis. Tim's passion and hope is to assist suffering marriages on the verge of divorce get back to the basics, and possibly end up saving their relationship instead. Upon talking with him I knew instantly he would make a great asset to the RTRS Magazine team, and we look forward to including his Press Release within the folds of our next and upcoming issue. Below is a small taste of Tim's blog, and full story may be viewed upon clicking on his name below.

I’m not a yeller. I never have been. When my sister and I had knock-down fights as kids, she screamed and I talked or cried (or both). Actually, that’s how our fights play out these days. I also never yelled when arguing with my parents, and the one and only time I got in a bit of a “tiff” with a colleague, she yelled and I, well, spoke. I’m the same way with dates. Recently, I had my first-ever argument with a non-yeller. It was weird — very weird. And I almost laughed in the middle because it didn’t feel like a fight. So was it? Does emotional release occur if you don’t yell? Is the fight as effective or productive? Do two people who are non-yellers accomplish anything while fighting? What about two screamers? To read further please click on Tim's name below.


Courtesy of Tim Kellis

Has the Passion Died Down?

Many couples face obstacles that tear them apart physically, and slowly the passion dies down as well. As you think back to when you first began when all was well and wonder what caused the two of you to drift apart. Love isn't easy, you must always work on keeping it alive and the same goes for the passion, for once one goes there could be no turning back if one feels rejected. Resentment is a tricky devil we have all tackled with at one point or another.

If your love is worth saving, do all you can to bring the passion back and kick the old routine to the curb. Spice up your love life a bit. Go on dates often and never forget to appreciate each other. The attached article will go into detail about how good love can go bad, and how to spark things up a bit by introducing your partner to some new and pleasurable techniques to help you achieve true bliss with each other. Hence, getting back to basics and reconnecting...

Break-Up Prevention When Love is Worth Saving

Domestic Violence

Domestic violence has been an issue many face each day with shame. Whether a woman a man or child, being abused either verbally or physically is wrong and there are many ways out, as well as many places you can seek help from. It may seem bleak at times, but the first step is to admit you are in a violent relationship, the second is to speak up on it, and sometimes it may be hard to but the most important thing to do is seek protection. No one has the right to belittle, hit or embarrass you, and no one should be given the power to no matter what. Love is to be kind, attentive and pleasing. There should be no room for nothing else.



The following link will provide you a story about a child growing up with domestic violence in her household, and the trauma she endured, as well as other links that will help you tell the difference if still confused about you being in such a relationship and how to get away from it. If you or anyone you know is in a violent relationship please share this with them as well.

Living with Domestic Abuse

Unknown Author

The following is an article which I entitled Unknown Author because of the circumstances surrounding how I came about obtaining it. This piece however,
focuses on the males point of view on dealing with a break-up, so I couldn't
help but add it to my wetpaint site as well as here, as I hope to someday be able to give this writer full credit, and also thank him for writing such a great story.

The site you will directed to is just featuring his story because the site we originally placed our work in messed up. Full details to how that occurred is also added where you're now being directed to, if you follow the link below.

Unknown Author

Military Life, Love & Sorrow

Military families endure a lot of heartache, loss, and resentment that can easily destroy a relationship. Since I am very familiar with this topic I wanted to open up and share some experiences I shared with very close friends who either lost a loved one or faced the fear of losing a loved one every day as they continue to fight in Iraq, Afghanistan or any other foreign country for our right to freedom.

These men and women face dangers on a daily basis we couldn't even fathom, and I for one am grateful to all military personnel for continuously portraying what an honor it truly is to be affiliated with these troops.

The attached poem was written for a friend who every day worries that she will get a dreadful call saying her beloved has perished. It was an honor writing such a lovely piece for such a loving person, and even more so because she allowed me to use her sentiments and have it published online.

If you or anyone you know has a loved one fighting this war for us, please support them on a daily basis. They need all the moral support and love to get through such a tough situation. Missing the person you love because he/she went away on a business trip isn't the same. Being a military wife or husband can be difficult in many ways, and the longing for the person you love to return to you safely overwhelming.

As a spouse you tend to be strong, but inside it is killing you to know that your spouse is facing such misery, despair and battles every day, which some of us can never understand or relate to. To all of our troops I hope for your safe return home, and for those just about to be deployed I send you my prayers. Thank you for being you, and for your chosen profession. You are truly appreciated.

Poem: To Really Want You Back

Living Among Depression

Many of us can understand how depression can set in, and basically turn ones life around. To the ones suffering from this driving disease my heart, and prayers go out to you, and this is intended to not only help you cope or understand this as a whole. Everyone suffers from depression, there is no escaping it. The daily stresses one endures is basically enough to set one off, but add the anxiety and the sufferer is not only scared, but can't seem to control it.

There is no wrong or right. Even the best person can have a mental breakdown, it can either sneak up on you or it can build up over time, but nevertheless it is overwhelming. This next article goes into further detail on how depression can strike and how one changes because of it. If you or someone you know is suffering from this it will also make it fairly easy to comprehend and never give up.

Depression & GAD

Band Slam Movie 2009

When gifted singer-songwriter Charlotte Banks asks new kid in town Will Burton to manage her fledgling rock band, she appears to have just one goal in mind: go head-to-head against her egotistical musician ex-boyfriend, Ben, at the biggest event of the year, a battle of the bands. Against all odds, their band develops a sound all its own with a real shot at success in the contest. Meanwhile, romance brews between Will and Sa5m, who plays a mean guitar and has a voice to die for. When disaster strikes, it's time for the band to make a choice: Do they admit defeat, or face the music and stand up for what they believe in?

Starring Vanessa Hudgens, Gaelan Connell, Aly Michalka, Lisa Kudrow, and David Bowie.

Our Children, Our Responsibility

As a parent, the majority of us who are proud parents want nothing but the best for our children. Sometimes the choices we make throughout their lives may be construed as being rough, demanding and even pushy, but being that we want the best for our children, some sacrifices must be made to make sure they turn into the adults we hope they can be. Strong, independent, hard-working and most of all loved.

We as parents must set the perfect example if we want our children to live up to the standards we expect from them. Not every situation is easy. You may be a single parent, or a full family it doesn't matter. The important thing to always keep in mind is that we need to show interest in our children's daily routines, and we must know who their friends are.

Trouble lurks in every corner, and even though your child may attend the best school and live in the best community it doesn't exempt them from harm. These days we have to worry about pedophiles, drugs, alcohol; abductions and murders. We can never be too careful, and we should never let our guards down.

There is a lot you can do to ensure your child has the best life can offer, so if you have to enroll them in after school activity during the school year,so be it. At least this way they are under some type of adult supervision, learning, or even doing something they have a passion for like karate, dance or music.


The following story was written with kids in mind and shall go into further details on what you can do to be an actively involved parent, as well as help them stay clear of drugs. I will later draw up a list of other activities your child and you can utilize to bring you closer, and camps that specialize in whatever your child may be interested in, so you can make the decision together. Safeguarding our Children...

Technical Difficulties

At present we've become aware the Pay Pal download feature is having technical difficulties and I am happy to say it is currently being adjusted. If by chance you have purchased a copy there are two methods and two different versions offered currently. That of printed version, and second which is a reprint, and includes two bonus articles. "Presidential Love, and Soul Mates," by Laronz Murray.

Therefore, if you have attempted to place an order and encountered a problem, please email andre@recognizetherelationshipmagazine.com, and he will expedite having said copy ordered forwarded to you with no hesitation once payment is verified; and order is confirmed for which magazine version was purchased.

We at RTRSM apologize for the inconvenience and hope to have issue with download feature fixed as soon as we can.

Resentment: From the Children's View

In our first issue we focused on Child Support/Break-Ups, and the problems it not only causes, but the turmoil both parents endure. Fortunately, we didn't go into it deeply enough so I wrote a piece which I had published online, that took things a bit further and focused mainly on the children.

Any break-up causes friction and when kids are involved it affects them just as bad. As parents we have to keep focus and understand the children's role in this, and how much the break-up may affect them if we focus only on the break-up and not their feelings.


Hopefully, the following article can bring the focus on the kids, and help the couples splitting up better handle the situation. The most important thing to remember, and always keep in mind are the children. It may be difficult at times to hold your tongue when in the process of breaking up, but it is mandatory to always see your bickering doesn't change a thing and the children are the ones who truly suffer if they happen to be a witness to these outbursts.

Bottom line is: Place Children First.

Luscious Lips by L'Swagger-riffic

The following is a small teaser to an upcoming columnist, which shall be featured in our upcoming issue of "Recognize the Relationship Magazine." Thus far, this writer has submitted a few pieces to us and we are also collaborating a piece together which we hope to add to our blog soon. Till then please feel free to give us your thoughts on the following teaser, we will truly appreciate it.
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In the development, nurturing and sustaining of a healthy successful relationship, communication is a vital “key”. It is the words that we communicate to our mate that tighten the security in the strengthening of our relationship. This especially rings true in the continuous building of our romance and the seduction aspect of our relationship. This is where the raw magnetic power of words can produce the ability to seduce your mate into an orgasmic state. Delivered with the proper emotion, words can quickly unlock the “gates of ecstasy” even if you’re in a new or long term relationship. Thus, this is your official introduction into a world known as “SENSUAL SEDUCTION” – where the power of seduction lies within the emotion of the words you say. So get ready to spice up the sensuality of your relationship by communicating these tantalizing words of orgasmic seduction. Welcome to our debut episode entitled, “LUSCIOUS LIPS” featuring THE POET…

Sensuous LUSCIOUS LIPS with a hypnotic effect

Falling into a trance waiting for what comes next

Concentrating on watching you move your LIPS in slow motion

Studying the formation of your lips with a strong devotion

Watching you open and close your mouth to a sensual groove

Causing my palms to sweat putting me in a romantic mood

Fighting this urge to grab you and softly KISS your LIPS

Fighting this urgent feeling as my mind starts to do back flips.

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Thank you Laronz for the pleasure of having this added to our blog and I can't wait till we
get together and collaborate on the "Male/Female on Views" column soon.

Insecurities:The Males Perspective

During our Premiere issue on Interracial Dating I wanted to submit an article which tackled the males point of view on insecurities. A friend of mine, who shall remain nameless shared his story with me and with his permission I was able to not only write about it, but publish it online as I already had a couple of articles added; and we wanted to ensure we gave every contributing writer a shot. Since this story is based on relationships and what can happen when you let past hurts interfere with your present relationships I wanted to also share it here with you, as originally it was intended for the "Recognize the Relationship Magazine" readership anyway.

I hope anyone who can relate will be more than willing to comment as this is a topic that is so widespread, especially when ones dealt with a cheating partner. The pain it leaves behind is strong, but there are ways to come up on top and never let the hurt deter you from seeking true love and commitment elsewhere. To read full article please follow the following link, and again share your thoughts. We look forward to your feedback.

Recognize the Relationship Magazine

Well the time has come and we are geared for an incredible year as we take our magazine online. This blog will keep you in tune with all the latest Recognize the Relationship Magazine has to offer as well as add very selective articles shared via our contributors.

We intend to keep you as in tune, and as up to date as possible with every given relationship topic addressed. Therefore, stop by as often as you'd like, make a comment on whatever might interest you, and share your views.

This site will be sure to keep the information flowing and address any topics you, our readers would like us to tackle with tact, an open mind and a solution where needed. Thank you for making Recognize the Relationship Magazine a part of your day. We look forward to doing so, for many years to come...

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