Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts

Sunday, August 29, 2010

The Key to Successful Relationships

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Most of us understand that the single most important thing to have in any given relationship is communication. With communication playing a major role in your relationship you can never go wrong, but then you also have to take it a bit further and always demonstrate how important that relationship truly is to you.

Little gestures of love, support and understanding are absolutely important as well, so with that said please try to remember to be the number one cheerleader to your significant other. Support your mate in every way you can and always let your partner know how important they are to you and openly share it with the rest of the world.

With relationships also comes compromising as we all know we do not all think alike and we can't all have it our way all the time either. It's okay to disagree but it is also great to sit and talk out the differences and make a decision together by working out the issues together, and establishing a plan to work through important topics until you both can find a mutual and agreeable solution.

To make a relationship work you both have to carry the burdens together on all four shoulders. Sometimes we can bottle our feelings up and not want to share certain burdens but the great thing about a lasting relationship is that one would know when the other needs help and how to assist them even if they don't ask for your help.

Every couple must be able talk about anything and everything to be a success. There should never be any secrets, and going to bed angry after an argument should never be considered. Always talk things out prior to going to bed even if it takes hours to sort things out for it is well worth it once you get the matter resolved as a unit.

One thing to also learn is to always keep your emotions in check when having a heated discussion. Sometimes the discussion can bring out issues that can heat up a situation quickly, but never let those emotions come between you or the importance of talking it out openly. The success of it all is being able to share a mutual love and respect for the relationship and each other. Making a habit of treating your loved one as you would like to be treated is critical, so make it a habit to do so at all times.

To respect, love, cherish and adore your partner at all times is a blessing that will carry your relationship to a deeper level every single day. Therefore do not get angry or jealous when the person you love wants to be alone either, and never try to hold your love back as this will lead to displeasure and resentment because he or she will not take the opportunity to be alone. Being alone sometimes is a basic need and in no way due to them not wanting to be with you.

Every human being has the need to be alone from time to time. Privacy is a predisposition in every human being. Taking the time to be alone will never take the love you have for one another away and will only enhance it if you don't make a big issue out of it.

There are many other great ways to keep the relationship a success that I will get to later, but for now I surely hope you take my advice and always remember the key elements in any successful relationship.

Communication, respect, support and most of all love.

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Grudges & Resentment



Many of us get hurt from time to time and somehow find it hard to let go of the hurt and truly forgive. The problem with holding on to the hatred you may feel is that it allows you to sink deeper and deeper into a place you quite frankly don't want to be. The more you dwell on the person that hurt you, the more you may want to lash out. We all know how hard it is to let go when one has wronged you, and we all know how easy it is to want so much to hurt that person as much as they have hurt you. The problem is that is not the answer.

The first thing one must do is figure out what is causing you to hold the grudge. You have to dig deep to figure out what the problem is in order to solve it, and let it go completely. Once you allow yourself to see the real issue you can make the choice to move forward or simply stew in it some more.

Solving the issue and releasing the grudge can be difficult especially if there wasn't any closure. The issue was never truly confronted and you are left to wonder how it can ever resolve itself without the actual confrontation. If you are ready to communicate without placing judgment on the person who hurt you that's great, every relationship has its ups and downs and not all work out the way we want it to, but if one deems it to be over contemplate on the why and always take into account each others best interest.

Whether you work it out together or on your own doesn't matter. What matters is that you will feel the relief by letting go of that built up tension and all involved can have a better understanding. Within the next few weeks I will dive deeper into this subject and hope to get some feedback on the matter if you yourself are facing this issue.

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Assertive I'm Not

Many find being assertive a great thing, but when one is used to being a lady and moral values weigh you down it sometimes can be overwhelming to say the least. You want to go with the times and a secret side to you longs to break free, but yet you tend to hesitate. You may find yourself asking "Should I or Could I? "May I or Can I? The issue may not be so much being assertive.

You know what or should I just say who you want. Once one is attracted to someone its inevitable, but the fear of branching out these days and acting on it can be scary and can sometimes lead one to trouble.

Flirting is one thing I find exciting, exhilarating and most of all fun. I enjoy being told I look good, I relish being singled out in a crowd and most of all I adore being the one not so easy to get. Call me a tease if you will, for I truly don't care. The purpose of my giving you my side of things is in one way so I can vent and in another to see how many people feel the same and just keep those hidden desires bottled in for fear of being rejected.

Throughout my life I have played the assertive role three times and all three times it has bit me in the butt in a bad way. My self-esteem diminished a bit, and I felt like a fool afterwards for putting myself out there like that, but I learned my lesson well. Therefore, my being assertive with someone I just simply find attractive will forever be a no no, I will or shall not repeat again.

~Author Unknown

Thursday, April 15, 2010

Faith

Dear Friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God and receive from him anything we ask, because we obey his commands and do what pleases him. And this is his command: to believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and to love one another as he commanded us.

1 John 3:21-23

Sunday, March 07, 2010

Poetry




The following poem focuses on coming to grips with letting go of an unattainable love, for sometimes we try a bit too hard to sustain a relationship that is only one sided, and the effort made to make it work just makes it a lot worse for the only one trying.

Just too Late...

Sunday, October 04, 2009

Living among Domestic Abuse




There are many living among us who suffer on a daily basis due to the mental anguish, torment and physical abuse sustained from the one who claims to love them. It is difficult for most to walk out on such a relationship due to loyalty, still being in love with him/her and then there comes the children. The one thing you should be focusing on isn't taken into consideration until it is much too late to make a change.

Your well being is placed in the back burner and so are the children because you think that your situation will change for the better if you stick to it. Let me just say unless the abuser seeks outside help, and anger management training there will be no change. Therefore it is up to you to place yourself and your children first. The following link will detail a woman's struggle with domestic abuse and how she decided it was time to finally let the abuser go.

Keeping the Other Happy

Saturday, August 01, 2009

Insecurities:The Males Perspective




During our Premiere issue on Interracial Dating I wanted to submit an article which tackled the males point of view on insecurities. A friend of mine, who shall remain nameless shared his story with me and with his permission I was able to not only write about it, but publish it online as I already had a couple of articles added; and we wanted to ensure we gave every contributing writer a shot. Since this story is based on relationships and what can happen when you let past hurts interfere with your present relationships I wanted to also share it here with you, as originally it was intended for the "Recognize the Relationship Magazine" readership anyway.

I hope anyone who can relate will be more than willing to comment as this is a topic that is so widespread, especially when ones dealt with a cheating partner. The pain it leaves behind is strong, but there are ways to come up on top and never let the hurt deter you from seeking true love and commitment elsewhere. To read full article please follow the following link, and again share your thoughts. We look forward to your feedback.