Many of us get hurt from time to time and somehow find it hard to let go of the hurt and truly forgive. The problem with holding on to the hatred you may feel is that it allows you to sink deeper and deeper into a place you quite frankly don't want to be. The more you dwell on the person that hurt you, the more you may want to lash out. We all know how hard it is to let go when one has wronged you, and we all know how easy it is to want so much to hurt that person as much as they have hurt you. The problem is that is not the answer.
The first thing one must do is figure out what is causing you to hold the grudge. You have to dig deep to figure out what the problem is in order to solve it, and let it go completely. Once you allow yourself to see the real issue you can make the choice to move forward or simply stew in it some more.
Solving the issue and releasing the grudge can be difficult especially if there wasn't any closure. The issue was never truly confronted and you are left to wonder how it can ever resolve itself without the actual confrontation. If you are ready to communicate without placing judgment on the person who hurt you that's great, every relationship has its ups and downs and not all work out the way we want it to, but if one deems it to be over contemplate on the why and always take into account each others best interest.
Whether you work it out together or on your own doesn't matter. What matters is that you will feel the relief by letting go of that built up tension and all involved can have a better understanding. Within the next few weeks I will dive deeper into this subject and hope to get some feedback on the matter if you yourself are facing this issue.
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